We began our relationship OVERWHELMED by a flood of EXUBERANCE. Both my husband and I confessed that our fall into love felt like plunging into an ocean with no fear of drowning. We waxed eloquently for hours on end about what we meant to each other.
But that's not necessary anymore. It took me some time to accept this evolution of Our love, as I had learned a Hollyweird version of what True Love looks like. Endless Syrupi-ness. That's a problem for a Real Black Man, cause? My husband issssss a MAN, not Dustin Hoffman in Blackface. He CAN TALK, and very WELL, to the degree that he ASTONISHES ME REGULARLY when he does, but? Whatever he says, including the most poignant confessions of continuing love for me? He tends to get out in 3 sentences or less. He's so efficient that even I don't require more.
Now some Men are natural poets who can make a rose garden actually smell like a NYC Subway tunnel, but most Men? Kinda like the quiet of just
living......
Whoa. I had never tried THAT before, at any point in my life. I mean I have been enjoying my life for a couple steady decades now, however it's been with a WHOLE LOT OF TALKING!!!!! But here I am in a MARRIAGE that looks like, LOOKS LIKE and FEEEEEEEEELS LIKE it's made by Allah to LAST. To continue droning on about the OBVIOUS, well, even to me, that started to seem a bit RIDICULOUSLY REDUNDANT. I don't neeeeeeeed continuous affirmation as our love is oh so THERE and I realize, as Hollyweird movies deliberately don't convey - I am not in a union with my TWIN, cause I ain't a Lesbian, and my husband isn't a Homo. We married and have risen HIGHER by learning how to love beyond Our limited realms. He has increased his healthy food intake with my gentle reminder that his presence in our family is PRECIOUS. While EYE? I may be more communicative, but my husband?
He just lives.
Wow......
So? I allowed myself to learn from him, and it's even MORE BLISSFULLY PEACEFUL than constantly talking. Who KNEW? I'm in the kitchen or the diningroom or whichever room with him drinking in the presence of him, all to myself, and it makes it feel even more INTENSE. Cause it's not a temporary, or even a HOPE for a committed relationship. It is
MY REALITY.
No need to keep stating the obvious, though every now and then, when we do, it is so much more profound cause there's NOT A DOUBT. There's Nothing to prove to each other cause our proof is our very Life, together.
Yes. This kind of silence is worth the wait, and the passing up of every fool before I met a Man who is confident being my King, and I as his one and only Queen.
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